November 16, 2019- Grateful for the CHAOS!
Before moving to SC on October 15, my friend Barbara gave me a T-shirt that reads “I run on Caffeine, Chaos, and Cuss Words”. Nothing could be more true than this shirt for me lately! With a cup of tea in hand, Vinnie and I made the conscious decision to tackle our “new projects” and “new life” all at once with the belief that if it is going to be messy and chaotic, let’s just do it! So we are knee-deep in “organized” chaos!
Since moving here, we celebrated Vinnie’s 57th birthday with 11 friends and family members on a Booze cruise (2nd night we were here), hosted a Happy Hour for 20 on our 3rd night here, picked up the golf cart we ordered in July and met with the building committee to get our lanai approved! By our 5th day here, our visitors had left and our builders showed up! The project outside began and our inside project of new countertops would start the next day. We had the kitchen measured and picked out the countertop when Steph and Anthony arrived along with the grandchildren and Vincent and Heather for the weekend….the same day our sunroom floor was ripped up and cement (inside and outside) was poured and leveled out! We ordered the countertops right after they left, on our way to Home Depot to order a new sliding door for the lanai and a screen door for the front of the house. Our countertops were cut down and our bedroom furniture arrived and the beams for the lanai went up! With the Spanish music cranking in my backyard and a bunch of hard working guys singing their hearts out, I had a strong desire for Mexican food on day 12 of living in SC!! So of course we went out to dinner!
During this past month of busy-ness, a few factors came into play for me: the environment, my need for routine, and my internal need to avoid stuff.
For the past 10 years, we have been visiting my parents down here, so I knew that it is more or less, “Summer Camp for Grown Ups”. Options are everywhere to do as much as you want or do nothing. In the kindest sense of the words, “nobody cares”! Because I don’t do well without some kind of routine, and I have been routine-less since July 1, I consciously jumped into making some kind of schedule for myself! My “avoidance patterns” have me escaping the banging at the house and running off into a fantasy life that I have been thinking about for years. So with these three factors converging upon me, within the last month I have joined the Bible study club, Writing club, Computer club, Qi Gong club, Prayer Shawl ministry, and the 100+ SC Women club. On several occasions, I have been taking a walk with Vinnie or walking in the resistance pool or walking laps in the pool with my mom. I even bought new goggles so that I can swim laps in the pool. The Eat Smart Live Longer club has a speaker coming in on November 21st and a grocery store tour…yup, I signed up for that for November 23rd. My friend, Wendy, and I went to see Steel Magnolias last Sunday put on by the Sun City Theater Group, we went to the Car Show when the kids were here, and I have taken two ceramics classes and signed up for two art classes. I am on the waiting list for the Stained Glass classes! This past Wednesday and Thursday, we attended the annual Sun City budget meeting, attended the Welcome Reception at the parish we joined, and went to listen to a local author.
My new best friend has become my SUNSATIONS Magazine where there are 90 clubs to choose from, 80 exercise classes each week that are available to all, 3 golf courses featured (although I do not golf, I read the articles), and 4 pages of “special monthly events” in each edition. I spend my evenings planning out my schedule for the next day. So many choices, so little time!
In addition to all of the settling in and house renovations we are doing, we fit in a mini-vacation to Panama City Beach for 5 days with friends and babysat the grandchildren for a long weekend.
So, yes, our days are busy and for the past month I am living off of daily “TO DO LISTS” to keep it all straight as we settle into our new home, but I wouldn’t have it any other way! We worked hard to get here and for that opportunity I am grateful. We had a plan and the plan is working out. We are blessed!
I have to say…. Tea is my caffeine of choice, CHAOS abounds, and I have used very few cuss words! This chapter in life has been good so far. I am so grateful and I truly don’t want to take one day for granted.
Someone once told me a long time ago, “Each of us has the same 24 hours in a day. How we choose to use them makes all the difference”. So, in that spirit, I guess I am choosing to fill mine with some chaos!
And I am so grateful for this CHAOS!